Can you sleep with yourself at night? What have you done during the day that may give you pause at night? Have you given it your best shot during the time you have? Have you done what you think is the right thing to do? Did you help anyone today? Did you cheer someone up? Did you let someone know they’re not alone? Or, that there are other people who feel the same way they do? What have you done today that is worth remembering? Have you made something that is worth keeping around after you are gone? Whether it is artistic, or handy, or just thought –provoking, what have you done?
If you haven’t done anything, why not? Don’t you think you should? What would you like to do? It doesn’t need to be mind-blowing does it? Couldn’t it just be something fun? Or just a small thing to entertain people? Will anyone remember you? If so, what for? What about your family? What memories will you leave for them?
“And When I Die” by Laura Nyro… “And when I die, and when I’m gone, there’re be one child born in this world to carry on.”
When most people think of someone who is courageous, they think of firefighters, soldiers, and other people facing extreme danger. But courage also applies to the agoraphobe who manages to go out into public or the person afraid of spiders who must enter a shed “full” of spiders to get the lawnmower out.
Fear can be a rational or irrational. Many people think that something that they themselves are not afraid of should not be scary to anyone. Nearly everyone goes out in public almost every day. Whether it’s to get groceries or go to work. They think nothing of it.
But what about the woman down the street who was ‘mugged’ while at the city park. Then after recovering from her injuries, was ‘assaulted’ on her way to work. A second stroke of bad luck hits her before she had fully recovered from the first. Admittedly this is an extreme case, not something that commonly occurs, but a true event. Could you blame her for being afraid of people in general, or men who looked like her attackers in specific? And if she’s afraid of people, how could she bring herself to go to a grocery store or work.
Yet, she must. She can’t have her family do all of the running for her. Imagine this: She starts by having a pizza girl deliver pizza to her door, works her way up to a pizza boy. Then starts working on the garden in her yard, so she can get used to being outside, but ducks in whenever a neighbor is seen. Eventually, she waves to the neighbors from a distance. Finally, with family and a good friend with her, she goes to the grocery store. She panics, and they calm her. One of them takes her home and the other finishes the shopping. Eventually, she makes it through the entire shopping experience, and knows that she will be able to shop on her own one day.
Would you be willing to be the one to hold her hand while she recovered? Knowing that she might pull away from you out of fear? Would you give her a gentle smile and tell her it will be OK? Or, would you look at her having a panic attack and think unkind thoughts?
She did manage to go shopping by herself after some effort, but occasionally had to leave her cart and go home. This woman showed more courage doing her shopping than those who don’t think about the danger they are entering into.
As the daylight lessens in the northern hemisphere and the leaves change colors, it is once again time to start looking forward to the holiday season. Halloween is over, Christmas shopping season is starting. Thanksgiving is lost in the middle. More on that on another day.
The weather is changing also. Harvest time has passed for most crops. Rural folks are making sure they have the heating oil and wood they need for the winter. Urbanites are turning on their furnaces and calling landlords/repairmen if needed.
We should all start preparing for the cold of winter. Ensure your car is ready for the weather in your area. Are the tires properly inflated? Does your heater work? How’s your battery doing? Do you have a blanket in the car where you can reach it without getting out of the car? (The trunk is fine if you can get to it there.) It is best to think about these things before there is cold weather than to wait and forget them till they are needed and it’s too late.